Pam and I visited the grave of Chuck, Pam’s Dad, who died in December 2007. He’s buried in the veteran’s section of the cemetery, having been drafted and served during the Vietnam era (though never in Vietnam itself). Pam laid a red, white, and blue wreath at his gravestone. Four roses already lay there. We assumed they came from Dave, Chuck’s brother, and his wife Elaine–one rose for each of the surviving siblings.